Imagine if you were as disgusted with rape as you are with periods.
Sincerely,
Sandra Ware
Greetings and Salutations, (Reference to the 80s movie Heathers, if you haven't seen it- but it on you're movie bucket list. Everyone has one.)
A lot of this blog is about promoting awareness because there is a strong since that people aren't aware of certain things, and even if they are, they have no idea how those certain things might effect people other than themselves.
Before we get to far ahead, I would like to issue a TRIGGER WARNING.
For those who aren't 100% sure of what exactly that means, let me just entail that a trigger warning lets people know when you are about to talk about something that might bring up trauma for them.
I issued this trigger warning today because the topic I want to unfold on this wall focuses on rape and rape culture...
In my previous blogs I mentioned some things that will connect to this like the fact that it doesn't matter what a girl is wearing, that should never be an excuse for harassing her, and the fact that males can be sexually assaulted to and shouldn't be shunned when they want to speak out on it.
I generally don't understand why it is so hard for people to put the blame on rapists; if it wasn't for them, the rape would of never happened.
We live in a society where you are supposedly innocent until proven guilty but it's time to acknowledge when people weren't innocent to begin with.
Being sexually assaulted is not something that comes up easy in conversation, but it helps to talk about it. It not only will help the person move on with their life but it will also draw more attention to the problem and hopefully help lead to possible solutions.
I don't know how but some people get confused when it comes to classifying rape. Like...what?
One way you identify a rape is the fact that there was no consent established before the incident occurred.
The word of the day is NO.
If you hear it, that means...
Honestly, what is so difficult about that?
In general, people view rapist as old men with strange clothes and glasses but...
Rapist can be women too!
In any event, rape is the most escalated form of sexual harassment and can happen to anybody at anytime.
There is no such thing as...
-Being too UGLY to be raped
-Being too OLD to be raped
-Being too STRONG to be raped.
No.
This whole tragic event can occur when someone is really bad at playing what is known as "the consent game" which is fairly simple. The only objective is the get the person you want to have intercourse with to say yes before you start the act, if that doesn't happen, than guess what - YOU LOSE.
Can there be different degrees to rape? Let's say theoretically a man wanted to be taken advantage of by a woman, and it was in spoken terms that the both would carryout this sexual display. But she wasn't specified to what extent he would be uncomfortable with. So she does something to stimulate him, and he retreats in pain or fear, then feels as though she's obstructed his limits of fortification. And to add more complexity, his wife finds out he cheated on her with this pleasure seeker by discovering his pain or fear or some sort. So she threatens to divorce him unless he cleans up his act, so he comes up with the solution of bringing the strange woman to court in filing for rape. Is he then in return awarded, or will it backfire on his case the fact that he was willing to have basic pleasure from the gecko?
ReplyDeleteWow, you really thought that one through. Sounds like an episode of Law & Order SVU. WELL, overall- rape is sexually invading someone's body without consent, if you want to talk about degrees of that, there's molestation then harassment but all are still punishable in a court of law. I'm sure there would be some kind of penalty in that scenario, just not sure what it would be or who it would be given to.
Deleteso i guess being a geckosexual is a thing?
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